Nothing Changes On New Year’s Day

Actually, I hope not. I just needed a good post title, all right?! So it was time to bring out the U2 quotes.

Anyway, I’ve posted my New Year’s resolutions here for the past few years, and I’m going to continue that tradition today. As usual, I selected three goals – enough to challenge me, but not so many that I become overwhelmed.

Here they are!

1. Exercise more.

I know, I know, this is a boring resolution. This is, like, the kind of resolution an old person would make. But hey, it’s something I need to work on so… onto the list it goes. I don’t get enough exercise and I need to change that.

Coincidentally, my parents are going to buy a family membership to the local YMCA. Hopefully, that will help me to accomplish this resolution, especially during these cold winter months. I’m not that enthusiastic about exercising in any weather, but I absolutely HATE exercising when it’s freezing outside – it’s been 10o F (roughly -10o C) lately! So I look forward to using the Y’s indoor facilities.

Also, they have loads of classes. I don’t know whether I’ll join any yet, but I will definitely consider it: I could use the motivation. I prefer to work alone for virtually any other activity (yay, introversion!) but have realized during these past few years that I NEED a buddy when it comes to exercising. They yell at me motivate me to work harder, and if I don’t exercise then I feel like I’m letting them down. On my own, I’m much more likely to go, “Exercise? Pffft, who needs that? Go read a book, Engie.”

2. Be more proactive about friendships.

This is directly related to my post from a few weeks ago, in which I listed six things I learned about people in 2014. One of those things was the realization that A) maintaining a friendship actually requires effort and B) lately I haven’t been putting in as much effort as I should.

I’d like to be a better friend this year. This does not necessarily mean that I want more friends; my tiny introverted self would probably find that extremely uncomfortable. But I do want to work on becoming closer to my friends. So in order to accomplish this, I will:

  • Arrange to meet up with my friends at places other than the movie theater (seriously, we did this so many times last year and although it was fun, you can’t talk to your friends and catch up on life while watching a movie)
  • Try to spend more one-on-one time with friends instead of hanging out as a group (I inevitably spend my time on the outskirts, listening to the conversation and not really participating)
  • Resume corresponding with my penpals
  • Invite a friend or two over to my house once in a while (hey, we could watch movies there and no one would mind if we talked through the whole thing!)

And, you know, if I make any new friends along the way, that’s cool too. But it’s not my main goal or anything.

3. Stop feeling guilty about what I love to write.

I love creative nonfiction. I love essays and blogging and making humorous observations about my life. I love writing fiction, as well, but creative nonfiction is my first love. I want to publish entire books of creative nonfiction, and I want to be a journalist someday.

And sometimes – more often that not, actually – I feel guilty about this. Although it’s what I love, I feel as if it’s not “real” writing. All my friends are writing lengthy fiction, entire books and series of fiction, and that’s just not what I’m really into. I mean, I do write fiction, and I plan to continue doing so, but I’ve realized that forcing myself to and telling myself “you can’t write anything else until you finish that short story” doesn’t work. It just makes me grumpy.

So I’m going to try to stop that. I’m going to spend my time writing whatever I darn well feel like writing, not halfheartedly writing what I feel like everyone else is writing. (Because they can’t all be writing fiction, right? Right.) So there, Guilty Writing Feelings. So. There.


Well, that’s all I have to tell you on this fine day. I do have other goals, of course – bookish goals! But there are a TON of those and I’m going to list them in another post later on. In the meantime, just know that my biggest (other, bookish) goal is to once again read at least one hundred books in one year. And if you will excuse, I’m off to start working on that goal!

Now it’s your turn! Do you make New Year’s resolutions, or do you not see the point in doing so? If you do have any resolutions, what are they? Do you think you’ll achieve them?!

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6 Responses to Nothing Changes On New Year’s Day

  1. Cait says:

    This is a list of extreme greatness. And you should definitely not be ashamed for loving nonfiction! That is kind of awesome! Because honestly…I can’t even fathom writing a whole book of nonfiction, so I totally think you’re amazing for loving that most. GO YOU. I would like to make my goal of 2015 just to stop trying to change my writing self. >.> It’s not good. I see other people writing every. single. day and I think “I’m a bad writer if I don’t do that too”. Gaaah. I compare myself so much it’s seriously a problem.
    Good luck with these! Exercising is quite fun for me…but then, I’ve NEVER EVER experienced temperatures so low. hhehe. XD I probably wouldn’t be motivated if I was freezing either. >_<

    • nevillegirl says:

      Thanks! I guess we’ll both be working on ignoring that little voice inside of us that says we SHOULD write something different, hmm?!

      Gah. You’re lucky. *pouts because of the cold weather*

  2. moosha23 says:

    Lovely goals! With the first one music is my main motivation (since I’m a music junkie) – I tell myself that during my exercise session it’ll just be my music and I for a whole blissful half hour. (Well as “blissful” exercising can get!). It works – but yes, exercise buddies do help. For me it’s all about the competition, I don’t care if I’m unfit and the other person is a super athlete. If we’ve got some sort of goal to reach together I will be ADAMANT in being first!!!
    Love, love, LOVE the middle one! Yes, we be the introverts! 😀 I’ve also made a new year’s resolution to be more social (as in go out and interact with people more). A year or so ago I was a freaking socialising expert…but now prolonged periods of hermit-ness means that I’m kinda rusty with the “social scene”.
    Ah…writing. Creative nonfiction is excellent isn’t it? And personal essays do seem like A Thing this year. I hope you won’t feel guilty about what you write – having that skill is coveted by many…and loving it too? That’s just the cherry on the top.

    • nevillegirl says:

      Thank you! Considering how much music I listen to (ALL THE TIME when I’m writing), I think listening to it while I exercise would probably make that time more enjoyable. So. I’ll have to bring along my iPod! 🙂

      I’ve never been too outgoing, but a year or so ago I was probably more outgoing than I am now. I guess I’ve just become more withdrawn?!

  3. SpunFromInk says:

    First off, hey thanks for following me!
    Okay, now that that’s done, I’m going to tell you something: journalism is beautiful. I went into college as a journalism major because journalists have the power to give voices to people who have lived voiceless, and cast light on things that many would prefer to be left in the shadows. It’s hard work, but it creates change.

    We won’t go into the story of why I changed my major here, or why I sometimes regret it, but I just want you to know that what you write is supposed to make you happy. Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others, but just keep moving towards that person you dream of being.
    I’m just going to leave it at that before I start spewing out general life advice at you like I know anything about anything. Also, forgive me if anything is weird, since I typed this up on my phone without contacts.

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