Hey all! I promised to write some posts this month about self-love, self-awareness, and all that jazz… so here I am, coming through with the GOOD STUFF! Today’s tag comes from Lavendaire’s channel on YouTube. I mean, she didn’t create it, but A) that’s where I first saw this tag and B) the original video appears to have been deleted. Aileen, AKA Lavendaire, just radiates honesty and joy and calm… I massively look up to her. Every time I watch one of her videos, I end up feeling so inspired + motivated!
I absolutely love love love the idea behind this tag… both highlighting your strengths and accepting your insecurities/flaws. I’ve modified this tag somewhat, making it slightly longer than Aileen’s version, because I want to give equal time to personality traits as well as physical traits. Basically, the name of the tag comes from how you name and discuss your “imperfections” and “perfections,” with the goal of feeling maybe just a little more balanced about this whole existence thing. Cool, right?
Onward! Enjoy! You can watch Lavendaire’s take on this tag here!
- I’ve dealt with acne off and on since around ten, although it’s thankfully not nearly as bad as it was back in middle school. I just remind myself that most people are far too distracted worrying about what others think of what they look like to notice anything on my face!
- From about the age of eight, I’ve struggled with my weight. (Would you look at that? I’m a poet and I didn’t even know it!) It makes me super self-conscious of the littlest things, from what I’m wearing to how I sit or stand. Following body positivity social media has really helped. In general, I try to focus on being healthy + strong + happy. As long as I’m eating right/drinking plenty of water, getting enough sleep, being active a few times a week, and taking my antidepressants, why should it matter if I’m not the same size I was when I was, like, 14?
- Related to my weight… STRETCH MARKS. Both from growing and from gaining weight after I stopped growing. But you know what? A body is meant to be lived in. I’m going to acquire scars, stretch marks, aches & pains, and eventually wrinkles as I grow older. It happens. It’s an indication of time passing and one’s body changing, that’s all. Once again, as long as I’m taking care of myself, it shouldn’t be such a big deal.
- I love my hair! It’s super thick and soft… and when it’s a little longer than it is at present, it becomes wavy.
- Without my eyes… well, I’m sure I’d be able to manage, but I use my eyes for so many of the things I love! Reading, writing, photography, staring at my BEAUTIFUL FRIENDS with those LOVELY BEAUTIFUL FACES of theirs, you get the idea. I love my brown eyes and brown hair. Purple looks really good with that combo, which happens to be a good thing because purple is one of my fave colors!
- I have really excellent teeth… thanks for the genes, Dad. I haven’t had a single cavity or broken tooth in my twenty-one years of life, PLUS I’m the only one in my immediate family who never needed braces. I’d definitely call that a win!
- Much of my self-worth is tied up in how productive I am, to put it bluntly. There are just SO many things I want to do in this life… also, I’ve found that keeping busy helps me fight off depression (or at least pretend that it doesn’t exist?). But sometimes I have trouble believing that an otherwise happy day actually counted as a “good” one if I didn’t get anything substantial done. Relaxing doesn’t come naturally to me, at least at this point in my life!
- I have a hard time being “present” in the moment, tbh. Instead, I tend to overthink the past or plan for the future – neither of which are inherently bad things, except that I’m like 99% sure I spend too much time on both of them! I’m slowly but surely learning to be more aware of what’s going on right here, right now. It isn’t always easy but it certainly is worth it.
- I have trouble finishing what I started. (Can you see how, combined with #1, this occasionally sends me spiraling into a deep dark pit of self-loathing? Y I K E S.) I definitely have more abandoned or paused projects than finished ones, but focusing on what I have completed helps to stave off the panic. Also, making lots and lots and lots of lists keeps me a tad more focused!
- I have a good sense of humor, or so I’ve been told! I love creative puns and… and roasting my friends, tbh. (With love!) Cracking jokes on my worst Depression Days™ helps me get through terrible moments and puts things in perspective.
- I have sooooo much love and support for my friends! I LOVE MY PALS SO GODDAMN MUCH THEY MEAN THE WHOLE ENTIRE WORLD TO ME AND I LOVE LETTING THEM KNOW HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE! I try very hard to lift others up and it makes me feel all warm’n’fuzzy when others say my conversations and hugs and wholesome memes and text messages make them feel better.
- I only realized this within the last few years, but I apparently have a very strong sense of justice and am super passionate about what I believe in? I get a lot of comments about this, both IRL and online. To me, it’s second nature: If something matters to me, I can’t let it go. I don’t even really think about it, I just go for it. I’m excited to see how that translates into Real Adulthood with, you know, a career and a family and everything.
- whimsywriter3 @ Rambling Writer
- Kate @ The Magic Violinist
- Boquinha & Dr. Mark @ Sushi and Pizza
- Holly @ Nut Free Nerd
- Mahima @ The Controversies
- Orphu @ A Mirror Made of Words
- Evi @ Adventuring Through Pages
- Eve @ Twist in the Taile
- Alicia @ A Kernel of Nonsense
- Alli @ Eclectic Alli
- Emily @ Loony Literate
- Elm @ Just Call Me Elm Or Something
- Em @ Yellow’s The Word
- Alex @ Alexandrina Brant
And as always, feel free to participate whether or not I tagged you. (Or ignore this tag, if you so choose.)
How often do you reflect on your imperfections + perfections? How do you think others’ perception of these qualities differ from your own? What would you like to tell them in regard to that?